Research Into The Sexual Life An Older Man

Researcher: Please tell me your age and gender.

SH: I am 79 and male.

Researcher: Can you tell me about your earliest experience of sex?

SH: I was about 13 years old, camping as a boy scout, when an older boy who was sleeping next to me (but he was wide awake) reached across and touched my penis, first outside the sleeping bag, then he put his hand inside and touched my cock, which grew erect and he began stroking it. 

R: How did you feel about that?

SH: I was shocked and puzzled, but soon grew to like it and I quickly found that I enjoyed the experience, though I was a bit embarrassed by what had happened.

R: Did he masturbate you to a climax?

SH: No. I had to wait until I was at home to try for myself. Then I discovered that when I kept rubbing my hard cock, to my surprise, I spurted white stuff on myself. That stuff was difficult to wash off my clothes, so I used to keep an empty glass jar hidden in the fireplace in my bedroom (there was no central heating in those days) so that I could shoot my stuff into that. Then I had to secretly dispose of the contents of the jar.

R: How often did you masturbate after that experience?

SH: Several times a day. When I woke-up before breakfast, during my lunch break, when I got home from school and then last thing at night. I was really quick. I usually only wanked for a few minutes or so each time.

In those days the only sexual material I could get hold of were magazines like 'Health and Efficiency" or Harrison Marks, which showed posed pictures of women without revealing their private parts. I didn't know anything about women's pubic hair or women masturbating when I was teenager. 

R: What was your first experience with a girl?

SH: Apart from kissing and feeling a girl's breast (that was a great), I was nineteen before I actually had a sexual experience with a girl. I had borrowed my dad's car to go to a dance and afterwards I took a girl home in the car. We started kissing and she unbuttoned my trousers, took out my cock and began to masturbate me. I was even more surprised when she guided my hand between her legs and I felt the wetness of her cunt. She pulled her panties to one side so that my fingers could slip into her cunt. We moved on to full sex after a few more mutual wanking sessions.

R: Let me jump now to your current situation. Do you masturbate now?

SH: Yes, I do.

R: How often?

SH: Well it depends on how much time I have on my own, but I would say I masturbate most days, but I don't always cum.

R: Can you explain?

SH: If I am alone, I will often get my cock out and stroke myself, usually while looking at images of women, and sometimes men, or I might read submissions on the SoloTouch website. I like to watch women coming to orgasm, so that includes women pleasuring themselves like on the Yanks website, and others. I masturbate for a long time with my cock hard for quite a long time without reaching a climax. When I do cum, that takes away my desire and I stop.

R: How long does that reduction in desire last?

SH: Usually as much as a whole day. By the next day I am ready to go again.

R: Do you have any sexual relationship with women now?

SH: Unfortunately not. My wife lost interest in sex about 8 years ago when she was approaching 70. She just announced that she didn't want to have sex again, that it hurt her to have penetration and she wasn't interested in mutual masturbation. I had to accept that.

R: Have you tried to find another woman, or man, who you could have sex with?

SH: Not really. I don't want to cause problems in my relationship with my wife. But I have occasionally had a massage.

R: Tell me about that.

SH: Well, it's only happened about four times. But I have visited some Thai massage parlours near me. I enjoy having a naked woman giving me a massage. She will ask if I want a 'happy ending' and I will say yes. She will pour oil on my cock and coax it into an erection. This may take a little while, but if I can also feel the soft skin of the woman's breast, I will get hard. Then after some minutes I may be able to cum, or alternatively I finish by wanking myself while she massages my balls.

R: Do you find that a satisfactory experience?

SH: No, not really, but it is pleasant to have an intimate connection with a woman in a sexual way, even if you have paid to have the experience.

R: Do you think you are unusual to still want sex at your age?

SH: I don't know how other men feel, but I get the impression that many of them have lost interest in sex. Maybe they can't get hard any more. There's always Viagra I suppose.

R: Have you ever tried Viagra?

SH: No, I never felt the need. I can stay hard without. With some visual stimulation, what people would call 'pornography', I can reach a sexual climax using my hand (I take it turns to use my right and my left hand) at least once a week. At other times, I just wank without climaxing.

R: Do you call it 'porn'?

SH: What I call porn is when 'adult performers', men with  unreal cocks and women with huge silicon tits, have sex that is obviously without any enjoyment and sometimes violent. I hate that kind of porn. I want to see real people enjoying the heights of sexual enjoyment, either on their own or with a partner of the same sex, or the other sex. I am quite fascinated by the 'trans' phenomenon which has become so popular provided that there is real care taken to respect the sex of the other.

R: So would you say that you are as interested in sex now as when you were young?

SH: It's very different now. I look back on the sexual experiences in my life and remember the details which still excite me - when my wife took my cock in her mouth, or when she orgasmed several times one after the other, when we took it turns to massage each other and come to a climax, when we had sex in the open air or in the shower, when we were watched having sex by a guy flying a hang-glider (yes, that really did happen) and when my wife (before we were married) would wake me up in the middle of the night because she wanted to make love again. 

I remember some girl friends I have had. One had enormous tits - I felt sorry for her because she was always having back problems because her boobs were so heavy. Another girl friend had not had sex for years when we got together. She was so grateful to me for bringing her sexual pleasure back into her life again. She used to say that I had a 'genius penis'. I was flattered by that, of course, because I have loved giving women pleasure.

R: So would you say that many of your sexual thoughts now are reminiscences?

SH: Yes, that is true, but that doesn't stop me having thoughts about having sex now or tomorrow. I suppose I am what some people call a 'dirty old man' - just because I am still fascinated by sex. That's why I like Solo Touch for the stories people tell. Calling sex 'dirty', or old men who are interested in sex a 'dirty old man', seems to me to be quite wrong. 

I want to respect people and would never force myself on anyone. I despise the so-called grooming (it should be called raping) that goes on whether it is priests in the church forcing themselves on young boys (or young girls), or in schools, at home or on the streets. There's far too much sex which is demeaning, cruel and exploitative.

R: Why don't you find a woman who would willingly have sex with you?

SH: Maybe I should, but I would have to do that in secret and that would mean deception. I have been through that in the past, and I don't want to do it now. I have to be satisfied with stroking myself.

R: Thank you for being so honest with me.

SH: It has been my pleasure.